Happy Friday everyone!!!

I did the trust formula for my wife, a trusted co-worker and a not so trusted coworker.

What I have found:

My wife:

In doing this exercise I have found that I try not to be vulnerable.  I want to have everything under control, be able to fix all problems and don't like showing emotion.

I understand now that I need to be vulnerable with her. I need to speak openly with her and ask her for help or support as she does will me and not be the person that doesn't have any issues ( I know I have plenty or more than plenty).

I need to step up and make this happen.  We came off a great few years where we were more than best friends and in January our 9 year old son was diagnosed with diabetes 1 which was a big change for our family.  My concern right away was that my wife would be over protective and take it too far which she did for 4 months until Children's Hospital told her that she could back off.  They explained that they had to scare the s.... out of everyone so that they would do at least 50% of what was needed and that most people that are not scared would not take it serious.   Over the past 6 months we have been getting on each others nerves and I was speaking to Shan about this at our last class.  My committed action was to speak to my wife by the Monday before we left for a vacation on Saturday, which took me until Friday but the conversation went more than great, it was outstanding.  When it all was boiled down, she thought I was mad at her and I thought she was upset with me.  We then went on a great vacation and our relationship feels even better than it was last year. Score of 11

When I did the formula on the coworker I don't trust as well I found that I want to trust her but that she needs to know where I don't trust her.  If not, she will not know that I don't and will not be able to improve is she thinks everything is fine.  I need to ask her about where she does not trust me incase there are issues the other way as well.  Score of 5.5

When I did the formula on the coworker that I worked with for 26 years, I found that we are vulnerable with each other and feel comfortable about calling it as it is and don't' worry  about upsetting each other.  I love this relationship, we work well together, we can trust each other and we know that when push comes to shove we have each others back.  I want this relationship with my wife and others, which until we did this exercise I did not know how important being vulnerable was in building trust.  Score 15.

Have a great weekend!!!

Jim Wilhelm
Director of Sales
Phone: (859) 538-8113
Cell: (513) 702-6554
Email: jwilhelm@galerieusa.com<mailto:jwilhelm@galerieusa.com>
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