What I love best about recalibration is focusing on the "centering" questions about choosing what would be most helpful.  My current nonprofit role is executed within the context of the child welfare court system, and my earlier career was in commercial litigation, so difficult conversations with other stakeholders can easily end up in a stalemate over who thinks they are in the right.  Recalibration has been a great way to shift to reliance on listening skills.  Acting in a way where everyone in the conversation understands they are being heard has a real power. I've been trying to add one additional prompt to the recalibration exercise - an instruction-to-self not to make assumptions and not to attribute motivation.  That additional prompt has been particularly helpful.

Kathleen M. LaValle