Great job Rob!  Just think how much more you are getting done while working
instead of stewing.

-----Original Message-----
From: mandela@stagen.simplelists.com [mailto:mandela@stagen.simplelists.com]
On Behalf Of Rob Trivett
Sent: Thursday, February 9, 2017 12:04 AM
To: Mandela Stagen <mandela@stagen.simplelists.com>
Subject: Drama Triangle

My Fellow Stagenites-

I had an instance this week working with one of our managing directors who
had asked me to complete a task and prepare an action plan. My initial
reaction was that of, oh no, the victim! Doesn't he know I am busy? Doesn't
he know that I am new and coming into the process at the last minute? He's
being unreasonable, this isn't an important task. After a few minutes of
wallowing I realized I was in a victim mindset and needed to become a
creator and focus on the outcome I wanted in the situation. Prior to the
Drama Triangle exercises the old Rob would have begrudgingly completed the
task and been angry for hours or days about the injustice of the situation.
Instead, wanting to solve the problem and add clarity to the request, I
picked up the phone and had a great phone call with the managing director
who clarified his expectation of me and gave me more perspective on the
request. We both provided each other with new information relative to
project and walked away from the call aligned. I was glad that I chose to be
proactive and seek clarity vs. slowly stewing in my victimhood.

Rob

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