Friends,

Recalibration meets creator/coaching mindset on top of using an integral thought process (organ, blue, green and sometimes red) with active listening thrown in for good measure.

Had a horrible, horrible interaction today with my shareholder.  He’s been very quiet for the past few months and came into my office today.  He started off with a lie and ended with a complaint that was disguised as a question.  This time, instead of getting frustrated, I practiced active listening, probed on his red mindset by asking (“What would people think if he failed?”… “how would you answer to your wife if this action created a catastrophe?”…. “you need to use your POWER and take back control of the field”.. Etc).  He hit me a few times by asking questions that implied I was lying to him, letting him down etc…. But instead of getting triggered, I recalibrated silently and turned the questions back to him as an active listener and played to his red power mindset in a creator way.  

Here’s my rub… this was a total manipulation by me to get him out of my office.  Not a very honorable thing to do to your shareholder but he is so destructive to his own organization (and my sanity).  I then got triggered by my manipulation and had to take a walk to recalibrate again.  I’m over it but still don’t feel great that I have to manipulate my stakeholder to get him out of the way to save his company.  Strange place.

PS – we finally implemented a version of my turn around plan and we are profitable for 2 months in a row (hasn’t happened since 2015)…. Yes, my achiever mindset is alive and well.