Thanks for sharing, David!

Isn¹t it amazing what we can learn from ³the kiddos?²  As a relatively new
³bonus² mom to my husband¹s two teenage children (McKenzie - 16 and
Jackson - 13), I am constantly reminded of our ILP practices.  They have
been an invaluable mirror for both Roger and me.  As an example, when
McKenzie asks for guidance on a project and he or I begin to occupy the
Rescuer station in the Drama Triangle, she reminds us to ³Stop
micromanaging her! ²  She simply needs a little help and doesn¹t need us
to solve the problem for her or tell her exactly what to do. D¹oh!
Through her bluntness, she serves as a reminder of the many times that I
have succumbed to the temptation to ³fix² or ³solve² for my former direct
reports and even current clients - and helps me get back into the Coach
mindset.

The story I tell myself is that she feels safe enough with us to speak
plainly, with no sugar coating needed.  I¹m inspired by her level of
self-confidence and desire to figure it out on her own and grateful for
the regular reminders to keep me walking my talk.

Best,
Lisa

Lisa Martin | Executive Coach
lisa.martin@stagen.com |  602.317.7250

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On 5/4/17, 9:57 AM, "homer@stagen.simplelists.com on behalf of David
Dozier (DFW)" <homer@stagen.simplelists.com on behalf of
ddozier@reynco.com> wrote:

>Can you say, Jedi Mind Flip.
>
>I started the active listening practice with my daughter. Opening
>question was, "I'm excited about you taking some classes this summer.
>Tell me about your schedule?"
>
>She responds, "I'm taking Sociology from 9am-12pm and Modern Mathematics
>from 6-8pm everyday from Mon - Thursday."
>
>I said, "that's great. Do you think you can work as well?" She replies,"
>I doubt it, did you listen to what I told you". I replied, "what I hear
>you saying is."....she interrupted me and said "no, you didn't hear me
>say anything or you wouldn't be asking me to repeat it. Dad you need to
>listen to what I tell you the first time so you don't have to make me
>repeat myself. What you heard me say is exactly what I said. Do you
>recall what I said?
>
>I stated laughing and walked away and said..."how are you paying for
>those classes?" Just kidding.
>
>Karate flipped by an 18 year old. Help!
>
>David Dozier
>(214) 729-1318