Tony,
What a great story about connecting the dots (and, I believe, fabulous
reference to Steve Jobs¹ famous commencement address to Stanford - if any
of you haven¹t seen it, I highly encourage you to watch:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1R-jKKp3NA)

Reminds me of when I first moved to the East Coast and I thought that
Northeasterners were ³abrasive²  (Sorry, O¹Neill and Ersek!)  I would say
³Thank you² in a grocery store and the response would be a curt ³Yep.²  As
the Persecutor I was, I called them ³Rude!² in my head. :)

Šuntil I realized that West Coasters are the same.  The only difference is
that they say, ³Sure² to convey ³You¹re welcome² instead of ³Yep.²

Amazing how a little perspective goes a long way!

Lisa Stefan | Executive Coach
lisa.stefan@stagen.com |  602.317.7250

Stagen | 3535 Travis  Street | Suite 100 | Dallas, TX 75204
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On 9/18/15, 2:18 PM, "Tony Lillios" <tony@nivana.com> wrote:

>One a run today, a car passed me a tooted their horn to move me over. My
>reflex reaction was 'Easy buddy. I'm over as far as I can!'  Soon after a
>pair of bikers passed saying 'On your left' which I had been trained to
>respond 'Thank You' to when training for the AIDS LifeCycle ride from SF
>to LA. We were taught how this simple reflex response encourages safety
>and communication.
>
>I realized in hindsight that car could easily (and likely) have been
>tooting in the name of safety. And with that 'feedback' I would like to
>reflexively respond with a 'Thank You'.
>
>So as Stagen has taught us to respond with simple 'Thank you' when
>receiving positive or negative feedback, it was often a bit awkward (just
>like it was for me to learn to do it with bikes passing me years ago).
>But I so clearly see now how this practice becomes habit and feeds the
>feedback cycle.  And I no how in the case of cycling it makes me feel
>connected and joined in safety with other riders out there.
>
>Funny how things just click out of nowhere sometimes.
>
>-tony