Real insightful application of mindsets Tony.   Gave me some pause to have some honest self-reflection on my first marriage and where I am now.   First marriage, I had strong, unhealthy shades of the red statement below which clearly caused some significant issues.  As I approach my next (and last) marriage, I have more shades of the green and orange.  The shift likely due to changing life circumstances, career stage, etc...

Thank you for sending this.

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Sent: Thursday, July 02, 2015 6:49 PM
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Subject: Mindsets and Marriage

In a very interesting coaching call today with Nathanael, we ended up talking about the recent Supreme Court ruling on gay marriage.  After his probing a bit, I made a statement like,

"I think a perfect marriage is where the energy of each of person counters the other's while the two of them being able to constructively make decisions to move the relationship forward".

His response was how "Orange" that view was.  And I saw that clearly after he said that.  It made me want to express views of marriage through other lenses as well.

"A perfect marriage is between a man and a woman that allows them uphold their collective traditions and pass them down through their children"  - Blue

"A perfect marriage is union of two people that is loving, mutually respectful and supportive. It allows each of the two to become more than the two could be individually"  - Green

"A perfect marriage is one where my spouse selflessly supports my personal and professional pursuits and allows me to live to my full potential." - Red

I continue to find the mindsets as a great way to turn judgment and reaction into curiosity and exploration.

Happy Fourth everyone.  Stay safe and have a blast!

-tony