Always love your insights Tony. Thank you for sharing!
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> On Jun 11, 2015, at 12:50 PM, Tony Lillios <tony@nivana.com> wrote:
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> Earlier this quarter I told the class I was going to get a new coach for triathlon which I did. I get my training schedule weekly. Something very interesting has unfolded for me this quarter with him in our relationship.
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> Early on I told him the following week was a difficult week for training. I gave him specifics of my availability to train day by day. He returned with a schedule that accommodated my request but also gave me SBI-ish feedback. Something to the effect of 'Thank you Tony for sending me your schedule next week. It makes it much easier to plan your training with an early heads up. I wish all my clients were so diligent'.
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> Several things have come about as a result of this behavior.
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> 1.  I continue to send him my schedule/availability for the following week by each Wednesday as well as feedback each Saturday how the training went for the week.
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> 2.  He gives me his SBI ish feedback EACH time. Never assuming I get it and am taking it for granted. He sounds like a broken record sometimes but I actually appreciate it!
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> 3.  As a result, I feel he is working with me and for me aligned with my goals and not just generating a formulaic workout schedule. This makes me feel an additional commitment (maybe driven by guilt) to do the training set out completely. I have missed very few workouts this quarter (maybe 3 or 4) and only due to feeling sick a few times.
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> 4.  I also noticed that in the past when I didn't have this feedback cycle, I would let my week to week chaotic cycle become a convenient excuse to have training fall apart. The problem is every week is chaotic for me and it was all too easy to 'blame' my schedule for weak training.
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> 5. I feel like I am in the drivers seat of my training and pleased and elicited with upholding my commitments and the results it is yielding.
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> In the past I was a victim because of my schedule. I'd persecute my coaches for being so formulaic and unaccommodating.  But a shift this quarter into the virtuous cycle has such a simple and significant shift going on for me.
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> Another Stagen mini success story.
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> I'm looking forward to a long term relationship with this new coach and seeing where it can take me.
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> -tony