> my learning is this — i have a well ingrained habit of “listening to respond”, especially when i’m in problem solving mode (which is my default state at work).  my learning is that i've realized when i take a more conscious active listening stance, i.e. asking questions, letting the other person talk, holding my opinions/thoughts (this is hard!) — while it may seem (painfully) “slower" in the moment, my relationship with that person actually deepens, and overall things speed up and/or have constructively grown beyond what they were before.  i’ve noticed this with at least 2 people very close to me.
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> could it be, that all of my relationships could benefit from this “slower” approach in the long run?  …i’m looking forward to continuing the practice to see what happens.
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> thanks,
> stewart
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