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> On Jan 22, 2015, at 2:10 AM, Tony Lillios <tony@nivana.com> wrote:
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> Thanks you Brock.
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> I think my own version of "pre-gamfilming" situations tends to feed my fears.  I imagine the worst reactions and prepare for them.  I am trying to break that habit as it can be taxing and exhausting for me (as I do it a lot).
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> I now try to use FISBE much moreso when entering a problematic/hostile situation.  I get clarity on my intention, check that it is authentic, and then engage.  There have been numerous situations around my fathers recent death that this has served me incredibly well.  When I gamefilm (after the fact) what happened, I am surprised that I acted so clearly and effectively without anticipating and agonizing on what each person might say or do.
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> But I digress…..
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> -tony
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>> On Jan 15, 2015, at 10:08 PM, Jessica Nunez <jessica@nunezprgroup.com> wrote:
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>> Brock,
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>> I agree with your observation. Our ³self-talk² creates these perceptions.
>> Good to practice saying it to transform our thoughts and how we deliver
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>>> On 1/15/15, 11:37 AM, "Brock Coleman" <ibrock59@mac.com> wrote:
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>>> Hey Tony,
>>> What worked for me was your positive no commitment and counter offer that
>>> seemed to be agreeable. It was very fair.
>>> What did not work for me was that you seemed nervous about offending me,
>>> so it came across as unsure of yourself.
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>>> Observation about the exercise for all:
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>>> I ³make up² stories about how the other person will react when I tell
>>> them no, and it does make me nervous.
>>> Transforming the no into a positive no with a different yes seen to
>>> discharge concern.
>>> Gamefilming or putting ourselves into the others shoes also helps to
>>> minimize fears as well. The exercise from today¹s teleclass was most
>>> helpful in leading me to that observation.
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>>> Thanks, Brock
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