Thank you Thomas after speaking with Nathanael as well he shared with me one word for me to think about.
Compassion you can't push a flower to open
Thar resonated a lot with me this week after being coached by Nathanael and dealing with my employees and my drama triangle.

I have shared the book of Ted with one of my employees and she came over immediately to a problem that I was rescuingabd said  that's absolutely not your job Rebecca and they should be bothering with that let me take over and put the operation department in charge to solve this .
I immediately so how I jump right in becoming a wrapped it and solve a problem in our office

We have an open space and there's pros and cons to the open space because you can easily multitask
We've come up with a program called the "butterfly "where we made sticks  w little butterflies on top put them on all computers and when  we put them up it's the concentration zone do not interrupt  and then down

We are taking small steps get people to not have interruptions !

so far this week looks like we are moving along and when the butterflies up nobody is flying in so thank you again and I appreciate all your shares

Thank you Rebecca

> On Oct 25, 2014, at 12:25 PM, Thomas Karsten <thomasakarsten@gmail.com> wrote:
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> The drama triangle really came into my life this week. Had to have a difficult conversation with an underperforming employee.
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> The ILP course has really caused me to focus much more on my role in the drama triangle. I'm much more aware that I tend to be the rescuer.
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> It was very difficult for me to stay firm and resolute in dealing with his underperformance.The time for reflection and weekly focusing allowed me to realize that I often come to the rescue of my employees to my own self detriment.
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> As I began to think about the issue with this individual, I quickly started to see myself moving into victim mode. With my resolution not to be the rescuer I then became angry and caught myself moving into the persecutor role.
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> Taking the time to get centered and talk through it with Nathanael allowed me to come up with what I hope is a great solution for him and for our company. I continued to be firm throughout our discussions but also very positive and upbeat about his potential if he's able to change his behavior.
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> It's amazing to me how so many small changes in my behavior and actions can make a huge difference in my overall life.
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